How this Mushy Mamma does it all

Having lived the life as both a stay-at-home mom and a mom who works outside the home, I can tell you motherhood is truly a job in itself, and it’s no joke.  When first returning back to being a stay-at-home mom, I told my husband “Yay, now I can live the life of leisure.” Yeah right! I was quickly reminded that even though my son is in pre-school most of the day,  there is still much to be done as a wife and mother.  Between running errands, cooking, and cleaning, I find that I rarely have time for myself.   If I am not doing for my family, I am thinking about them or what they need and how to make their lives more enjoyable.

In a recent survey conducted by Eversave, one of the top daily deal sites targeted towards women and family, they surveyed more that 700 mothers to find out how they “do it all.” The soon-to-be released movie, “I Don’t Know How She Does It” starring Sara Jessica Parker as a busy mom struggling to do it all is what prompted Eversave to conduct their survey.

The recent survey found that:

During waking hours, the majority of moms said they never finish their to-do list.

I agree, and personally find that it’s hard to do it all.  I rarely have time to breathe, let alone do anything special for myself.  Some things that I do and have done to help me manage being able to “do it all” are:

1.  I try to make a menu at the beginning of the week and prepare some meals in advance.  That way, in the evening after work and school,  I am not scrambling trying to figure out what to cook.  If I don’t plan in advance, I find that I am pressed for time because it starts to get too late in the evening for my young son, and I sometimes resort to feeding him “fast food,” which I prefer not to.

2.  So that I don’t take away from precious time spent with my son, when he is in the bath after I have bathed him, I let him splash around a few minutes longer while I clean the rest of the bathroom around him or fold the never ending pile of laundry.

3. On certain nights I put my husband in charge of reading to my son and tucking him into bed, so that I can run around like a mad woman cleaning the downstairs.  When my son is finally asleep, my husband and I can try and sit down and catch up with a peaceful conversation.

Don’t get me wrong  the above things help a great deal however, sometimes I still struggle trying to get it all done.  Like the 47% of other women surveyed given into my child’s temper tantrums just to keep the peace and save time.

Sometimes, when I am out on a play date at the park with other moms, I may take a moment to check myself out. When I  look down at my feet I  realize how ratty they look with the polish chipping off etc.  A hot wreck!  So when I do take that rare moment for myself, I tend to want to treat myself to pedicure.

In fact of the recent  700 women surveyed:

35%  said they find time for themselves once a month and their preferred way to spend that time is pampering themselves with manicures, pedicures, facials and other spa treatments

Eversave would like to give away 2 Save vouchers to one lucky reader of my blog, so that they can treat themselves and a friend to a Shellac manicure or spa pedicure at The Polish Bar located inside The Green Tree: Day Spa and Skin Clinic.  Lucky for me, they are treating me to one too!

Please leave a comment  below to let me know how you “do it” all to enter to win.

If you don’t win, there is also an amazing deal going on right now.  Check it out and tell your friends.  Hey what better girls day than to treat yourself to a mani/pedi.

CONTEST ENDED ON SEPTEMBER 16, 2011 at 11:59pm

(Winner was chosen by a random number selector at RANDOM.ORG)

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Mushy Mamma
Mushy Mamma

THE WINNER OF THIS CONTEST WAS NICOLE HARRIS. CONGRATULATIONS NICOLE. WATCH YOUR EMAIL FOR DETAILS ON YOUR PRIZE

Nicole Harris Williams
Nicole Harris Williams

Love this topic as we could all use help balancing it all. In the last few months, I've had to come up with some creative tricks spurred by my recent and temporary (prayerfully!) status as a single mom. In a sign of the economic times, hubby could only land work out of town, leaving me to hold down the family fort solo most days of the week. I am a mom of two and half girls: My oldest is two years old and I'm six months pregnant with Baby 2.0 who is expected to launch in December. I work full time outside of the home as a media relations professional. Read: i am tethered to my iPhone checking emails from time-starved news reporters and producers. A few tricks I've come up lately to balance it all: Cook at least one extra meal a day: I have never been able to master the old-school cook-enough-food-on-Sunday-to-last-all-week program. That involves way too much planning and time that I don't have. So I'm on the "old-school lite"plan: while my toddler is eating dinner, I cook the next day's meal. Dubbed "easy, freezies," these are quick meals that don't take hours to prepare and are freezer friendly. Even a ravenous pregnant woman and a seemingly insatiable toddler can't eat a full meatloaf in one sitting, so I use only a pound of ground chuck and freeze the rest. Move up "bedtime" by half hour. All working moms know the same sad, but true fact. When we get home from the office (esp. with horrendous commutes) we have at most 2.5 hours with our kids before it's time to get ready to do it all over again for the next day. That's 2.5 hours (if you're lucky) for the nightly basics: dinner, bath and bedtime. If I can get my toddler in bed just a half hour earlier, then I can check email, make a call to on-the-road hubby or simply sit on the couch to breathe. Note, I said get toddler in bed, this does not translate into said toddler sleeping. I usually just get her in bed with a toy or her favorite video to help wind her down. I then enjoy the gift of time. Rob Peter to pay Paul: As a former financial journalist, I should be shot for even suggesting this but let's face it, times are rough and you gotta do what you gotta do. When there's more month than money, I'll use a credit card to buy team lunch at work (nothing more than $20-$30) and collect the cash from office mates. I'll use the extra bucks as cash flow, rather than dip into savings to say, cover a bill. The trick is to make sure you replace the funds BEFORE the end of the billing cycle, so you're not incurring extra debt or finance charges. Tricky and definitely not for the financial novice but it works. Pray, pray, pray: I call on Jesus so much He likely screens my calls. Seriously, I seek spiritual wisdom on everything from how to discipline my unruly toddler, help me be a better wife (I'm a newlywed so this might change as I get further into the game LOL) and help me to meet deadlines at work. I pray for favor with my bosses, stakeholders for my organization and anyone else that can be affected by my work. One of my biggest prayers is that I teach my daughters the power of prayer so they know how to activate the Holy Ghost Hotline on their own. I pray now that everything we've written here today can be helpful for the next sister in the struggle to "do it all." My prayers get answered so you can thank me later. Smile

Imani
Imani

As you know! I get help!! I get help from other mom's and starving college students. Instead of trying to do it all I try to spread the wealth and get a babysitter, or housekeeper from time to time. Then I try to get into a routine of cleaning and organizing. My best friends are a to do lists and some containers in all sizes. I make a list in the beginning of each week. I helps me keep things in perspective and to prioritize. I also try to make sure everything has a place but purchasing and labeling containers as such. It makes cleaning easier for me but also for the little ones to help. Even my one year old can recognize were certain toys go. Okay sorry to write a novel....clearly I am desperate for a pedicure. LOL. In fact, I just took off my chipped polish yesterday before going a dr. appt so I wouldn't be embarrassed if I had to remove my shoes

CMP's Mommy
CMP's Mommy

Once you tell me, can you let me know? I think doing it all means doing what's most important at that time. Some days I do it all, some days I don't.

Elisabeth
Elisabeth

I don't do it all!... but I try. ;) I am a big list maker and that really helps me out!

Mushy Mamma
Mushy Mamma

So I am hearing that support and organization are key. I can really take a lesson from you in organization. I need some blue containers/tubs LOL

Mushy Mamma
Mushy Mamma

I hear you on that, yes I often don't get things done that I need to. I really need to start making a list and prioritize. Sometimes I guess if I am able to handle a bunch of little task rather than one more complex task, I feel more accomplished.